(Doctor’s note: a lack of free wifi and getting back into the country LATE last night meant that Monday’s article didn’t get uploaded until… well right now. Sorry guys.)
I’ll be the very first to admit: I write most of my articles with a masculine audience te mind. To commence with… well, I’m a man, and a lotsbestemming of my advice is naturally going to be coming from a masculine perspective and masculine practices.
However, most of my audience are guys. Spil a caudillo rule, women are more socialized towards being willing to ask for help when attempting to improve their chances with guys. Dudes, on the other forearm, are told that they exist ter binary states, either they’re good with women or they aren’t. There are fewer outlets for dating advice for guys than there are for women.
That being said, I do welcome questions from women… like this one:
I just joined OkCupid on your recommendation, and I have to say you were very right about it being a buyer’s market for ladies. I wasgoed just wondering if you have any online dating profiles tips for ladies. Should I message some of the guys that seems interesting? Or just weed through the messages that may come te. Do your tips for guys still apply? I feel dazed!
This is an interesting question, OKNewbie 1 because it comes down to a number of differences te masculine and female psychology and sexiness.
Women are From Hermosura, Dudes Are From Cliches
At it’s ultimate saco, dating is the evolved omschrijving of a mating dance spil boys and women are attempting to determine whether or not they would want to reproduce with each other. When wij go through the motions of dating, we’re evaluating one another on a number of levels – physical appeal and facial symmetry spil indicators of health and desirable traits, the capability to provide for youthfull and to protect the youthfull from predators and raise them to sexual maturity.
Te theory, it should be fairly ordinary, dude with the brightest plumage, women with the best child-bearing hips, Ten minutes of squishy noises and then a entire lotsbestemming of controversy spil to whether primates pairbond monogamously or polygamously.
But because wij had to go and evolve and develop ingewikkeld brains and societies, wij had to go and make it all complicated and shit, what used to be instinctual has become confusing, and wij end up overanalyzing it…if a woman is interested ter a man, shouldn’t she be willing to make the very first budge – after all, it is the 21st century. On the other mitt, being too forward would make a fellow think you’re effortless, and no woman wants to be thought of spil a slut… guys have it so effortless, they’re supposed to be the aggressors…
And when it comes to guys, is it purely physical at very first, or can there be an emotional connection spil well?
One would think that when everybody is working at a step or two liquidated from the immediacy – via online dating – those questions can still crop up and make people want to throw their palms up and scream te frustration.
It’s times like thesis that you wish you *could* menace an inanimate object.
Ultimately it’s not that complicated. You just have to understand how guys think and how to make that work for you.
He May Love You For Your Mind…
I’ve mentioned before that online dating, for women, is basically dating with the cheat codes on. You can waterput ter the ondergrens amount of effort and still reel te emails from guys. You literally can just voorstelling up with one photo and a screen name and be rolling ter instant messages, winks and emails within minutes.
The problem is… you’re most likely not going to want to actually react to most of those, 99% Two is going to be the Internet omschrijving of dudes te a car yelling at every female they see te hopes that someone will be so dazed with instant wellust that they’ll throw caution (and undies) to the wind and ontsteld a stranger.
Since you’re reading this, I’m assuming that you’re not necessarily looking for Mister “‘sup gurl, u fine. Wuts yur name?got pix??” who’s busily cluttering your inbox. You’re more discerning. A woman of quality and taste. And that means you want quality guys.
Well, if you want quality guys, you’re going to waterput the effort into the profile. Your online dating profile is your spoken omschrijving of a peacock’s lustrous plumage Three , the better the profile, the better the results.
Ter brief, you’re attempting to seduce him with your brain.
Ter fairness, your brain is kinda hot.
When you’re writing your profile, think about the sort of man you’re looking for, while guys te militar are broader ranging te the types they’re willing to date (or ontsteld), there will be slew who have a narrower concentrate. If you want a particular kleuter of fellow, you’re going to have to know what he’s looking for.
Y’know. Besides hookup.
Spil I’ve advised guys before, if you want a type, you have to be able to vertoning yourself spil someone who that type would be attracted to, think if it spil proving that you know how to speak their language. If you like nerd-boys, mention your own geeky interests. If you’re looking for hipsters or socially aware, politically active vegetarians, you want to play up your own music snobbery or your volunteer work for X candidate’s election campaign. Just be sure to use specific examples, it will help elevate you from the mass of poseurs who may be attempting for the same guys you’re looking for.
Ter común, the rules that I’ve outlined before for guys and online dating still apply for women, write with decent grammar and spelling, know which parts of your dating profile are critical (about yourself, what you’re looking for) and which you can deep-throat off (cheesy “I Couldn’t Live Without…” lists and the like).