GGG is a term coined by lovemaking columnist Dan Savage to represent the qualities that he thinks make a good sexual fucking partner. GGG stands for ‘good, providing, and spel.&rsquo, Think ‘good te leger,’ ‘providing of equal time and equal pleasure,’ and ‘spel for anything&mdash,within reason.'” Wij know from previous research that people who are more motivated to react to their playmate&rsquo,s needs (high ter communal strength) report higher relationship satisfaction and feel more intrinsic joy after making a sacrifice for their playmate. 1 But, do the benefits of being &lsquo,providing&rsquo, and &lsquo,spel&rsquo, translate to the sexual domain of a relationship spil Dan Savage would suggest?
Ter a latest examine, my colleagues and I explored whether being motivated to meet your fucking partner&rsquo,s sexual needs is good for yourself. Two Wij termed this motivation sexual communal strength – the desire or preparedness to meet a playmate&rsquo,s sexual needs, even when different from your own preferences. When wij asked people what this meant to them, they included several examples including: having lovemaking with your playmate when not entirely ter the mood, pursuing sexual activities that your playmate likes even if they are not your dearest, and taking strides to understand and meet your fucking partner&rsquo,s sexual fantasies. Here are a few items wij used to measure people&rsquo,s levels of sexual communal strength (rated 0=not at all, Four=enormously):
- How far would you be willing to go to meet your playmate’s sexual needs?
- How high a priority for you is meeting the sexual needs of your playmate?
- How likely are you to sacrifice your own needs to meet the sexual needs of your fucking partner?
- How blessed do you feel when satisfying your playmate’s sexual needs?
Te a sample of long-term couples (together for 11 years on promedio), wij found people who were higher ter sexual communal strength also reported higher levels of daily sexual desire and were more likely to maintain their desire overheen time. People who began the investigate with high sexual communal strength maintained desire overheen a 4-month period, whereas those who embarked off low ter sexual communal strength had declined sexual desire. Two
So Dan Savage may be right &ndash, there are benefits to being GGG. The motivation to meet a fucking partner&rsquo,s sexual needs can be good for the self and can help keep the spark alive te long-term relationships.
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1 Kogan, A., Impett, E., Oveis, C. Hui, B., Gordon, A. Keltner, D. (2010). When providing feels good: The intrinsic benefits of sacrifice te romantic relationships for the communally motivated. Psychological Science, 21, 1918-1924.
Dr. Muise&rsquo,s research concentrates on sexiness, including the role of sexual motives ter maintaining sexual desire te long-term relationships, and sexual well-being. She also studies the relational effects of fresh media, such spil how technology influences dating scripts and the practice of jealousy.