The promedio age for couples to marry from the 1930s to the 1970s wasgoed 23 for boys and 20 for women, according to a explore by Infoplease. Now imagine for a uur that you’ll be married te the next two years. For some collegium students, the thought of committing to a serious relationship is horrifying, which is why Collegium Magazine—and fellow students—weighed te on the topic to shed some light on why wij seem more apt to propose “Netflix and Chill” than an engagement stadionring.
If wij take our generation’s dating style spil it stands today and compare it to the 1950s, we’ll find that things have certainly switched overheen the years. Back then, a date took place ter a drive-in movie theater or an ice fluid salon after a cordial meeting the parents-of-the-intended, of course.
If the date went well, and the duo wished to take their relationship to the next level, they proclaimed themselves “going sustained,” or “getting pinned” and arranged a schedule for dates and phone calls. “Getting pinned” usually led the duo to the next level: engagement and eventually, marriage.
Now older generations say millenials are “lazy, entitled, confused and addicted to instant gratification.” But the negative characteristics that define our generation are most overduidelijk ter our dating lives, particularly te the establishment of voortdurend long-lasting relationships.
To be fair, our entire lives we’ve bot discouraged from pursuing serious relationships. “You’re too youthful to be so serious with [insert significant other’s name],” our parents insisted. At the same time, many have witnessed the failure of relationships firsthand te their own homes, spil 44 procent of marriages end te divorce, according to the Washington Postbode. “[Having seen] the ache our parents went through, wij aren’t interested ter having long term relationships because it’s only going to crash and burn and end te such heartbreak,” said University of Colorado-Boulder sophomore Joslyn Lafond. With this evidence, why would wij everzwijn attempt to look for something more serious?
Another punt facing romance culture today is that traditional dating doesn’t indeed exist anymore. If an individual we’re interested te brings too much baggage or too much work to pursue, wij adapt to the “there’s more fish te the sea” mentality and stir on. “The ‘through the thick and thin’ concept is overshadowed by the sphere of possibilities wij have with sites like OKCupid, or just with going out and meeting people,” said Florida State University freshman Ciara Foquim. “We’re a generation that doesn’t want to lodge. Wij don’t want to keep around a bf or gf if wij foresee any troubles or conflicts.”
However, not every student fully agreed that old-school romance is spil dead spil valscherm pants. “I don’t think our generation has an aversion to long lasting relationships at all,” said Florida State University freshman Chloe Kramer. “The reason people think that our generation is so flippant and nonchalant regarding relationships is that we’re the most publicized generation everzwijn.”
Others said that wij still desire romance, but we’re simply too afraid to reach for it. Unluckily, the mission of finding a significant fucking partner is not a risk-free occupation. Practices ter relationships leave many with scars and insecurities. “I think wij all want someone to come huis to at the end of day,” said University of South Florida freshman Kathryn Cound. “We want someone to share [our stupid thoughts] with and wij know wij do, but the society wij live ter today holds us back with fear of heartbreak and being left ter the dust.”
Wij live te a world where everything wij want presents itself to us instantaneously. Want food? Order it online. Want hook-up without commitment or any inkling of emotional attachment? There’s an app for that and it rhymes with the word “hinder.”
With instant gratification, why waterput ter the time and effort ter a relationship when wij can painlessly have anything and everything wij want? What wasgoed merienda a period of verdadero dates and “going steady” is now an era of confused hookups and Netflix and chill.
Some may view our dating world today spil an overly sexualized train wreck while others proceed to outrun that pesky “in a relationship” status. Truth be told, our generation’s style of dating doesn’t have a clear-cut definition and depends on the needs of the individual.
Maybe, our lack of desire for commitment is actually a signal for some form of individualistic advancement. Maybe, our subconscious desire to have a romance like Andy and April Dwyer from Parks and Recreation is still going strong. Whether you choose to have someone fresh ter your leger biweekly or whether you have a wedding houtvezelplaat set up on Pinterest, ultimately, the power is yours. So what will it be: Serious commitment or casual fling?